I was listening to Focus on the Family last week and heard something that made my ears stand at attention. Dannah Gresh was the guest, and she was talking about Getting Lost in God’s Love. She published a book titled Get Lost where she explored the difficulty women often face “Getting Lost In God’s Love” because of our natural yearning to be fulfilled by a relationship with a man in the flesh.
Dannah referenced the verse in Genesis 3:16 that says, “Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you.” This obviously came after the fall in which Eve disobeyed God and ate from the tree of life. This was not Adam’s proudest moment because not only did he not try to intervene, he blindly followed Eve’s lead and then snitched on her to God. As God let them know what the eternal consequences of their actions would be, he indicated what the innate posture of a woman’s heart would be toward man until the end of time.
In her research, Dannah saw that the word “desire” here had a slightly different meaning than we are accustomed to. This desire was likened to a condition bordering disease. She explained, this desire produces a violent craving and therefore alters our ability to react to things normally. WOW!
So given my education and training, I am aware of the components at play here from a scientific point of view (the role of oxytocin, dopamine, and the sympathetic nervous system). But now to be exposed to scripture that supports my prior research was mind blowing. P.S This is the kind of stuff that reveals how much of a nerd I am.
Ladies, bottom line is we are neurobiologically pre-dispositioned to fall dangerously in love with men. So no, you’re not crazy. Well you might be, and if you are, cut it out! But the average woman is not crazy, we’re just women (by design).
It behooves us therefore, to take measures to guard ourselves against awakening love before it so desires (Song of Solomon 2:7). As we already know, not every man is worthy of our abounding love. My hope is that we will all adopt these as our secret weapons to counteract nature:
- Common sense
We can’t help how we are wired but we can help the decisions we make.